Faith, Family & Fun

Faith, Family & Fun is a personal column written weekly by Joe Southern, a Coloradan now living in Texas. It's here for your enjoyment. Please feel free to leave comments. I want to hear from you!

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My name is Joe and I am married to Sandy. We have four children: Heather, Wesley, Luke and Colton. Originally from Colorado, we live in Bryan, Texas. Faith, Family & Fun is Copyright 1987-2024 by Joe Southern

Tuesday, January 29

Why you should trust newspapers, not social media, for your news


In recent days we’ve been given healthy doses of why newspapers and professional journalism still matter.
I’ve been keeping with my previously announced plan to limit my social media diet to no more than two hours a week, but I’ve been on Facebook and Twitter just long enough to see what horrors social media has wreaked on the truth.
The first incident involved a group of Catholic high school students from Kentucky who were confronted by protestors on a field trip to Washington, D.C. The confrontation took place at the Lincoln Memorial. The boys, who were wearing Make America Great Again (MAGA) hats were being verbally accosted by four black protestors.
Rather than retaliate, the boys asked their chaperone if they could do their school chants to help drown out the insults in a positive way. Permission was granted and the boys started doing their school cheers. About this time, an elderly Native American beating on a drum confronted the boys. He got in the face of one of the boys, who just stood there quietly smiling.
Video of this incident was posted on social media and instantly went viral. The message that went with it, however, was that the boys confronted the protestors and began chanting “build the wall” and hurling other insults. It was the complete opposite of the truth. Yet celebrities, “media” outlets and hordes of people on social media began spreading the lies and condemning the boys without questioning the source or checking the facts.
Not only were innocent boys vilified, but along with them all Trump supporters, their Catholic faith, and whites in general. What’s worse is it just deepened racial and political tensions that are ripping this country apart. It gave people another reason to be angry and to spread lies and hate across the Internet.
My next example, I must confess, tripped me up. I began to see multiple posts on Facebook about how New York Gov. Andrew Cuomo and that state’s Legislature passed a law that allows abortions up until the moment of birth. It was so rampant on my social media feeds that I believed it to be true. That was reinforced by seeing similar headlines on Yahoo and Google pages.
 It was easy for me to believe because abortion is a touchstone issue with me. My pro-life, anti-abortion beliefs are so strong they shaped my political leanings and became the benchmark I use to judge political candidates. It ties perfectly with my Christian faith and dwells at my moral core.
I found it deeply appalling that any government and any people could legalize and celebrate the slaughter of innocent, defenseless unborn babies, especially those beyond the point of viability outside the womb. It made me sad and angry. Fortunately, I never shared any of those items on social media. If I had I would have been guilty of spreading lies.
While it’s true that New York did pass sweeping abortion legislation and celebrated it by lighting buildings pink, the laws were not nearly as liberal as I had been led to believe. It was not abortion on demand up to the point of birth. After checking out the facts, I discovered that the legislation was a pro-active response designed to keep abortion legal in New York should Roe v. Wade (the Supreme Court ruling that legalized abortion) ever be overturned.
What the law did was de-criminalize abortion and move its regulation from criminal to health law. It expands the right to perform abortion beyond physicians to include physician assistants, licensed nurse practitioners, and licensed midwives. It also allows for an abortion after 24 weeks to protect a woman’s health or where a fetus is not viable.
While I still find most of these actions deplorable, I am equally disturbed by the inflammatory and deceitful “stories” about it circulating as fact on social media. Both of these cases would have never circulated the way they have back in the days when legitimate news organizations were gatekeepers of the news. These and countless other cases illustrate the dangers of social media.
In the days before the Internet, newspapers, television stations and radio stations were held to a high ethical standard when it came to reporting the news. Stories were thoroughly researched. Perspectives were sought from all sides involved. Facts were checked and checked again. Editors not only checked spelling, grammar and style, they also questioned facts and held reporters responsible for their work. Stories didn’t make it to print or broadcast until they were reasonably researched and verified to be as factually accurate as possible.
Even now professional news organizations stand as gatekeepers of the news, but the advent of the internet has torn down the walls. We no longer govern information, it flows all around us. Unfortunately, so do all the lies and opinions that pass as fact. Social media has become a purveyor of most of that misinformation. Don’t blame the Russians, President Donald Trump, or legitimate news organizations for so-called fake news. Blame the person in the mirror. Blame every person who blindly shares every headline and meme they see that agrees with their opinion or ideology without considering the facts or the source of the information.
Information flies so fast in the electronic world and so many people are manipulating information or creating outright fabrications that discerning what is true and right is becoming increasingly difficult. Even honest, legitimate news organizations have their websites so cluttered with paid posts that share so much of this drivel that their own integrity is now in question.
The best way to dig through the garbage for the nuggets of truth is to actually turn back to the sources that have always reliably presented the public with true news. You won’t find this social media mayhem printed in your local community newspaper. What your will find are stories about your community. We have information about local governments, schools, sports teams, entertainments, and much more. We may not have the resources and staffs that we did in the pre-internet days but we do have the same mission.
It’s a mission we carry out as diligently as we can because the news we print is for and about our neighbors. It’s the information you want and need about your own community.  We’re not here to spread sensationalism in order to get likes and shares. Our purpose is to inform, educate, and entertain our readers. We’re not here to mislead you or to get your dander up. If that’s what you’re after, then by all means trust social media for your politics and “news.” Just don’t be surprised when you get suckered by fake news. It won’t be our fault.

Wednesday, January 23

Chris Hogan wants to help you become a millionaire


Chris Hogan at Books-A-Million at Katy Mills Mall.
So, you want to be a millionaire? I’ve found the perfect person to help you achieve that dream.
His name is Chris Hogan and he is a protégé of Dave Ramsey, the personal finance guru who has helped millions of people get out of debt and grow wealth and generosity. Hogan just published his second book, “Everyday Millionaires,” and was in Katy last week during a stop on his national book signing tour. An estimated 250 people crammed into Books-A-Million in Katy Mills Mall to see Hogan and have him sign their books.
I had the honor and pleasure of interviewing Hogan prior to his appearance. As we huddled together in the backroom of the bookstore we talked about his book and his desire to help people join the millionaire club.
“People are loving the message,” he said. “People are hearing it. And I think it’s timely for people to understand the American dream is still available. But people need a plan. We just can’t just give them motivation, we need to point them in the right direction and that’s what this book does.”
The book is the culmination of two years of intensive research. Utilizing an outside research firm, Hogan and his team interviewed 10,000 of the 11 million millionaires in America and compiled their stories, strategies and other statistics into “Everyday Millionaire.” The book is a follow-up to his “Retire Inspired” and dovetails nicely into the Ramsey financial storyline.
“Looking through the process, we’ve got Financial Peace University, there’s ‘The Total Money Makeover’ – Dave’s book that really changed my financial life - and then it moves into ‘Retired Inspired’ and then ‘Everyday Millionaire.’ But here’s the reality - having been with Dave (Ramsey) for 13 years, we know without a doubt when people start working in the right direction and they do certain things over time, they have success,” he said.
The keys are time and consistency. If you’re looking for a get-rich-quick book, don’t bother picking this one up. The lesson learned from the millionaire next door is that creating wealth is akin to being the tortoise in the race with the hare.
“We’ve got to learn how to slow down. You and I grew up in a time and an age of crock pots. That tastes so much better than something that’s microwaved, and it’s slower and that’s what I want people to do. Set goals that you’re serious about but be intentional about working toward it. Yes, it’s going to take time but I promise you it’s going to be worthwhile,” he said.
I had to ask him if it’s too late for an old guy like me. I’m 53, am saddled with debt, and have no savings whatsoever.
“A lot like ‘Retire Inspired,’ a lot of people thought that book was targeted toward baby boomers – no, that book was targeted toward people. I don’t care if you’re 21 or 81 because the principles in it are firm. And so the same would be said for this ‘Everyday Millionaires’ book that regardless if you’re 23 or 53, the principles, the qualities that make people millionaires, the things that they do … they take personal responsibility, they’re intentional with their finances, they’re goal oriented, they’re hard-working, and they know that wealth-building takes time. That has no age demographic,” he said.
In his book, Hogan uses real stories and statistics to bust several myths and to provide a roadmap for real wealth building. Among the millionaire myths that he busts are: They inherited their money and didn’t earn it; they take big risks with their money; and they have expensive educations and earn high wages. Nearly 80 percent of all millionaires didn’t inherit a dime. They’re not all doctors and lawyers – in fact a high number were accountants and teachers!
The tool that 79 percent of them used to build their wealth was their employer-sponsored retirement plan, usually a 401(k), and investments in Individual Retirement Accounts (IRA). The average person in Hogan’s study became a millionaire at age 49 after decades of investing. Less than 5 percent did it within 10 years. Hogan wrote that 88 percent of millionaires have at least a bachelor degree with 62 percent graduating from a public state college, 8 percent from community college, and 9 percent never graduating from college.
His point is that anyone can do it.
“Now, granted, what’s the end number everyone’s after, is it a million is it $2 million, I don’t know, I just want people to know that it’s possible. Even if you’ve made financial mistakes in the past, even if you have credit card debt and student loan debt right now, I want to encourage people to attack it so they can start to move forward,” he said.
Hogan grew up in rural Kentucky and made all the financial mistakes that the average person makes – credit cards, big house, expensive car, etc. He learned from those mistakes and shares his millionaire journey along with some of those he interviewed.
“I wanted people to not only see the facts and the proof, because you can’t disagree with over 10,000 people – that’s statistically called ‘wrong’ – but from hearing how they walked through it. A lot of these people walked through some tough stuff because they’re regular everyday people, just like the people reading your column or me and the people that I’ve talked to. So we’re not talking about anyone that’s excluded from having life go on, we’re just talking about people who moved past life happening to them,” he said.
Hogan’s life is an open book in his book.
Joe Southern and Chris Hogan
“I talk about the errors that I made, because why? Not because I want people to look and say ‘boy you were dumb,’ because I was, but more importantly I don’t want people to make those mistakes,” he said. “And also, the bigger reason, for the people that have made those mistakes, I don’t want them to think that’s the end. You see, where you are right now doesn’t have to be where you end up. We just need the right information and the right people to come around us to help us go in the right direction.”
To find that direction, look for Hogan’s “Everyday Millionaire” book and be sure to check out his website, www.chrishogan360.com.