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My name is Joe and I am married to Sandy. We have four children: Heather, Wesley, Luke and Colton. Originally from Colorado, we live in Bryan, Texas. Faith, Family & Fun is Copyright 1987-2024 by Joe Southern

Tuesday, June 13

Why I was wrong

Before you read this entry, please stop and read the one below entitled "Would a gay marriage ban be constitutional?" It's important that you read it first to understand the context of this posting.
Have you read it? Good, let's continue.
The purpose of that posting was to get people, fellow Christian in particular, to think about what they feel and believe about the issue of same-sex marriage. Frankly, if you're going to be for or against something, you ought to know why. The same-sex marriage issue is something I've struggled to understand.
As a Christian, the issue is clear. The Bible speaks very plainly about homosexuality being a sin. It's an abomination before God.
As an American, the issue isn't so clear. In my previous post, I hope I presented a strong enough case for Christians to understand the danger of a Constitutional ban. On the other hand, there are very compelling reasons to support a Constitutional ban on same-sex marriages.
1. The law governing such a volatile issue as this ought to be consistent across the land. Letting individual states decide creates an imbalance of rights between each state. The last time we had that, states went to war against each other.
2. Ask yourself, why do we have laws? We have laws because man is inherently evil. It's our sin nature. If man were inherently good, there would be no need for laws. We wouldn't have to make murder and robbery crimes, because no one would do those things. But people will do those things, even though it is illegal.
Homosexuality, in addition to being condemned by God, is a crime in nearly every culture, religion and nation in the world. To decriminalize it and to elevate to the status of marriage is not only inviting God's wrath, it lowers the moral standards of the nation.
3. Elevating illicit, unnatural and amoral relationships to the same honored and celebrated status of heterosexual marriage is to invite a breakdown of communities, cultures and families at the core level. Family and marriage are at the very center, the very heart, of all human relationships. When you mess with the foundation of a structure, you can expect it to impact everything that it supports. It's no different with marriage.
When you redefine marriage, you redefine the family. Changing families changes communities, cultures and countries. This would not be a positive thing. It's injecting a cancer into the very fabric of our lives.
I could go on, but this is getting too long already. I think it's important to protect the holy, sacred and natural institution of marriage. Those who violate it ought to face the consequences, not be celebrated for it. That goes for divorce, too, but that's another topic for another day.

Wednesday, June 7

Would a gay marriage ban be constitutional?

Allow me to play the devil's advocate for a bit. While I am fully opposed to gay marriage, I have to wonder if the Constitution could or should withstand a ban on same-sex marriage.
Is it the place of Christians to decide what marriage is? Is marriage a religious institution? If so, should should a union between two non-believers be called marriage? What about common-law marriages? Are they real marriages?
The more I look at the situation, the more I have to question the value of a same-sex marriage ban, especially one written into the Constitution of the United States. At face value, it's discriminatory against people who don't believe or behave the way the rest of us do. I think any time we infringe on the rights of one group of people, we infringe on the rights of all people.
What if the roles were reversed and there was a gay majority that wanted to define marriage for the rest of us? Where would we be then? Would that be right? Would it be fair?
While I feel homosexuality is unnatural, reprehensible and condemned by God, I don't think it's our place to force our beliefs and will upon those who believe otherwise. I think those people will have to answer to God, not a Senator, for their sin. As a Christian, I think it's our duty to discourage homosexual behavior and to teach the truth as God has shown us in the Bible. But as Americans, it's not our place to pass judgment on them or to tell them how they should live or whom they should love. I think the more we polarize and politicize the issue, the harder we make it to extend the love and grace of God to these people.
Anyway, that's some food for thought. Please feel free to reply and let me know what you think.